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Ignorance is not intent.
Asking to learn is not affront.
Offended is not entitled.

This vocabulary lesson brought to you courtesy of a few folks.
  • Earlier over the last week, someone was going off on me because- as near as I can tell- she perceives me as a closet racist. st_rev is, I think, assuming you'd already read the post on my journal (it's the most recent one that's mostly struck through).
    I think, in future, I am going to try to use 'hey, you have an experience I don't- how should I find out more about where you're coming from? Resources?' instead of finishing that off with 'tell me about it?' It's a totally fair point that people can get sick of relating and re-relating and re-re-re-relating their own history.
    • It is not unlike the coming-out story or "How did you know you were gay" question, for many people.

      However, just because I have been asked (in varying degrees of politeness) "Why are you in that wheelchair" several hundred times is not an excuse for me to be a bitch to anyone asking. (Even the assholes, although I have been known to fail at that one.) If I want to represent the community well, the least I can manage a "I'd rather not talk about that. If you'd like to know more, there are some really good books by Dr Disability in the library."
      • Yeah- one gets tired of telling the coming-out/how-did-you-know stories: I can certainly readily grasp being tired of telling the it-works-different-when-you-ain't-white story.

        And yes. hence 'offended is not entitled', above. ;) Just because someone asks me whether I'm the girl or the boy in bed doesn't give me permission to blow up and have a shrieking fit about the question.
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