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Ruminations that I'm not going to LJ cut and you can just freaking cope.

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Ruminations that I'm not going to LJ cut and you can just freaking cope.

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So a thought occurred to me:
Straight couples have little discussion required about who's doing what to whom. There's an emphatic 'this is how it plays, homey' about who's putting what in where; if you want to vary from that (and good on you if you do!), there's discussion to be had. But most people won't vary.

Gay couples? It's a negotiation every night. Maybe I don't feel like giving head tonight. Maybe I just don't want to fuck your ass senseless tomorrow night. Is that something wrong with you? no. Might it take a good bit of coercing to get that across? yes.

Chripes, no wonder a lot of older gay men seem so lonely.
  • By the same token, that lack of discussion can be the kiss of death as well.

    There was a column by local sex-lebrity, Mistress Matisse, a while back about how she tried to go out and have a casual hook-up and any discussion about preferences killed the conversation. It was just assumed that X then Y then Z then we go to sleep and negotiation wasn't an option.

    And I have to admit, the notion of chatting someone up in a bar and then talking out kinks does seem kind of weird.
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