
Example:
I know Jennifer know, Jennifer was named James originally, and I've known her since she was seven and I was nine. I should say, f'rinstance, 'back in high school, Jennifer and I were inseperable; double-dated a lot. She never used to wear trucker hats then.'
...this seems so damn obvious I'm frankly embarassed it wasn't my gut instinct.
One especially insightful suggestion I got on

Thanks for bearing with my '...buh?' on this, for helping me find the Miss Manners answer, and for your willingness to share your insights.