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I'd forgotten how often we saw Magritte

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How does one best reply to the comment
your cousin doesn't think you like her very much
when the shortest and most honest answer is
I don't
  • I'd murmer something like 'oh, that's too bad...'

    What'd I'd mean, likely, is that it was too bad that she was not very likeable, but whoever I was talking to would likely mean that it was too bad she thought that.
  • sarah bunting (of the excellent advice column the vine on tomatonation.com) often suggests the phrases "i'm sorry you feel that way" and "why would you need to know that?" when dealing with relatives.

    the variant applicable to this case, i belive, would be, "i'm so sorry she feels that way."
  • In evil mode, I'd suggest: "I never gave her credit for being that perceptive."
    • Well I WOULDN'T have expected her to notice anything that far from, you know, the end of her nose.
  • It was suggested to me once that an appropriate response to many comments of that type is: Hmmmmmm.
  • Yes, as redshrike says: the proper etiquette response is something like? "Oh? Oh, I'm sorry." "I'm sorry it feels that way" is the full text, but these days that one is often a) recognized as a dodge and b) followed up with more awkward questions.

    Either way, family is likely to suggest you "do something nice" to the wretched creature, at which point you look confused and say, "Well, golly, I thought I *was* being nice to it. I don't rightly know what I *could* do to be nice to it: I don't know it very well, apparently."

    And change the subject, or offer the it some software from work, which is "nice" enough to get relatives off one's back, and doesn't really ask much of you at all. (No time spent together, for instance.) If some "face time" is suggested, you look uncomfortable and say "We just don't seem to have much in common, and I'd be afraid I might inadvertently offend it again."

    Poison is only suggested in extreme cases, as a death in the family usually means funerals and even more having to be hypocritically nice to people one doesn't really like.
  • Well..at least you're not married to her.

    In my dad's family,this would be followed by
    "Do you think she want's a divorce?"
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