I do. However, I think the answer to making this happen is roughly my approach to encouraging it: simply not voicing the racist bullshit that you grew up with, and letting it die with you. I may occasionally think racist bullshit- but I'd really love for it to not live longer than me, which is why I try to avoid saying it.
Here's where the tone argument comes in, I'm quite sure.
How frustrating; I came up with a good 'share YOUR LJ experience' question just now, but it's stupid-o'clock in the AM my time. I'm mostly posting this so I remember that I'd come up with a good topic for discourse later today, when I'm going 'CHRIPES, I wish I could get folks jabbering on my LJ'.